Pleasure and orgasm, the ingredients for successful sexual intercourse

In the field of sexuality, pleasure and orgasm are the main topics. They have great interest to both men and women. These two topics also pose a lot of questions. Because it is quite common that they are not at the rendezvous during the sexual exchange between the partners. While both are expected as the purpose of a successful sexual intercourse.

Pleasure, whether sexual or not, is often difficult to explain and understand. As is the pain or unpleasure that follows the same nerve pathways and whose neurological centers in our brain are very close. We define it as a sensation or a pleasant emotion relating to the satisfaction of a desire. Every human being is looking for it and seeks to avoid displeasure.

An emotion that is beyond our control behind a successful sexual intercourse

Our brain, according as it accepts the sexual arousal, will regulate the level of pleasure even going to turn it into displeasure. For example, what an individual feels during masturbation will follow the degree of acceptance of this practice. His enjoyment may be important if, for him, masturbation is completely guilt. On the contrary, very poor if masturbation is experienced as a guilt.

A sensation that depends on the excitement and its quality

Acceptance of excitement involves letting go of the mind and body. Many women unconsciously limit their sexual feelings by simply refusing to let go to the other. Refusal to “let go”, that is to say, that they will always put a barrier between her and their partner not to give up and do not lose their self-control on their own excitement. Pleasure, therefore, requires to let oneself go to the other and accept the other as being able to give it. 

It also requires sufficient excitation quality

Generally, the quality of the excitement, in the field of sexuality, goes through the preliminaries. Caresses, and all erotic games acceptable by both partners. These caresses and erotic games must first take place outside the genital areas. Many men have not understood. For them the genital caresses are much more important than those extended to other parts of the body. It is only when the excitement becomes strong enough that genital caresses will bring real satisfaction to the female partner. Penetration can be done because of sufficient vaginal lubrication. Male enjoyment, on the other hand, depends on genital caresses and penetration.

There are also factors that inhibit a successful sexual intercourse

The most important factors are:

  • a bad emotional climate between partners
  • the social prohibition of the act 
  • any stress whatever its nature

In general, stress is most often responsible for the difficulty that an individual will have to have fun.

Sexual pleasure is always limited in time but ends on a climax that is orgasm

Orgasmic pleasure is the strongest, but also the shortest of all the pleasures that a human being can feel.

In humans, it is most often confused with ejaculation but you should know that they are still two separate entities. It is indeed possible for a man to ejaculate without orgasm but also to have an orgasm without ejaculation, as may be the case following a prostate operation or in some traumatized spinal cord.

After orgasm, in humans, there is a so-called refractory period during which any new sexual stimulation can not trigger a new excitation. This period, called refractory, is more or less long depending on the age of the subject. The older the man, the longer this period will be.

In women, orgasmic physiology is different. On the one hand with regard to the mode of triggering which can be clitoral as well as vaginal, but also with regard to the post-orgasmic period because at the woman the refractory period does not exist, which makes that one woman can have several consecutive orgasms.

At the vaginal level, it can be triggered by the movements of back-and-forth of the partner but also by stimulation of the G-spot or by stimulation of the vaginal bottom and stop of the penis on the cervix.

According to recent surveys of sexuality, women say that they reach orgasm more easily through caresses and clitoral stimulation than through penetration, but that penetration is stronger and more intense. This difference in orgasmic intensity could be the fact that vaginal orgasm involves a greater number of deep muscle groups, but this remains to be demonstrated …

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